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Picture two lonely twenty- somethings, 2.4 miles away from each other, both struggling through the end of tumultuous relationships.
Two lonely people seeking very different things- one of us had good intentions, and one of us had none.
I was your typical tinder troll.
I was the QUEEN of ghosting boys on Tinder, and, unfortunately, Michael was the result of one of my most crafty “drink and ditch” plans.
My life as a Tinder ghost went through many phases but it ended in an incredibly unlikely way.
The Broken Hearted
I would venture to say that this is the most popular group of people responsible for Tinder ghosting.
These are the guys/ girls that will text/ snapchat you all the time.
They’ll make plans to meet up, but chicken out at the last second.
When I matched with Michael in the summer of 2015, I had just broken up with the guy that I had been dating off and on since high school.
My best friend convinced me to download Tinder “just for fun.”
I didn’t think I needed it, but I went along with it anyway.
The night I downloaded Tinder, I got a message from Michael.
He was going out and wanted to meet up.
I was freaked out about the whole idea of it, so I thought maybe I would just take a free drink for my best friend and I and ditch.
When we met up, he was a true gentlemen, he bought us drinks and we chugged them.
We left shortly after, and about an hour later, he saw me hanging out with another guy.
Although it may not sound like a valid excuse, I can assure you that the broken- hearted do not understand the damage that they may be causing.
These people are hurting and they probably cannot yet identify what a good guy/ girl looks like.
These people are looking for love, but still need to heal.
The Attention Seeker
This one is all of us to some extent.
Tinder is a great daily ego booster.
I don’t know of any other place where you can experience a variety of cheesy pickup lines crafted just for you (or used on 10 other people), get told how pretty you are, and rummage through hundreds of messages, choosing whom to reply.
Hangout two with Michael happened about six months later.
I had deleted and re- downloaded the app more than a handful of times since we had last seen one another.
This time, I had moved on from the heart break category, into the “home alone over Christmas break” attention seeking category.
I was out with a friend one night, and he was too.
So, I went over to where he was to meet him (and get free drink number two).
We talked for a bit, but then my friend needed me, so I left to be with her.
Later on in the night I saw him walking around with his friends, and I walked the other direction.
The attention seekers like things to be on their terms.
They only want you when they’re lonely or need the ego boost.
Attention seekers can get better over time, though, so don’t write them off right away.
Get to know these people, sometimes it might take a few tries to crack their seemingly egotistical shell.
The Gold Digger
Watch out for this one.
People like to blame this one on females, but I think this can be everyone.
This is the group of people that are unwilling to meet up UNLESS there is something good in it for them ie: dinner, drinks, entertainment.
They won’t just join you at the dog park or for a movie, they need some kind of incentive, and they get a high off of using other people.
When hangout number three with Michael happened, I was going into it with the intentions of more free drinks.
By this time, it had already been a year of enduring my ghosting, and he was pretty much sick of me.
However, one night, a freshly 21 Ariel partied a little too hard, and ran into some “medical” trouble.
I remembered that Michael worked in a hospital, so I texted him asking if I was going to die.
Turns out I was just fine, and the reassurance that he had my back was really moving to me.
So, ~finally~ date number one happened, and, (gold digger that I formerly was) ended up asking to pay for the drinks.
And, the rest is history.
You see, if Michael had not contacted me the second time we matched, even though I had already ditched him, I never would be with him today.
We have been dating for almost a year now and I cannot imagine a single second without him.
If he had not pursued me or had just begun ignoring me like I did him, we would not be as happy as we are today.
Sometimes the people who are unwilling to meet up are just gun- shy from their last relationship/ experience and need a little time.
They need a little forgiveness and understanding.
Trust your gut, though, and if it feels like you are being used, you probably are.
Of course, it could end up being love at first (or second) ghost too.
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Bernie Sanders has every right to stay in the race, but the longer he stays in, the more trouble he is causing within the party itself, and therefore the greater chance Donald Trump has to be President.
In early May, the Nevada Democratic Convention saw violent outbursts following an announcement that a slight majority of the state’s delegates would be allocated to frontrunner Hillary Clinton.
Some supporters of the Vermont Senator in attendance expressed their displeasure with this by throwing chairs, screaming, and threatening state party chairwoman Roberta Lange.
Sanders response to these violent outbursts from his supporters is more worrisome than anything.
While he condemned it, he did not do much to convince his voters from refraining from it in the future.
The chaos in Nevada led some to predict similar reactions to the National Democratic Convention in Philadelphia come July.
To this idea, Sanders did not dismiss the extrapolation that such ferocity erupting at the convention would be terribly damaging to the Democratic Party as a whole.
Instead, the senator told the Associated Press that the convention could be “messy.”
“I think if they make the right choice and open the doors to working-class people and young people and create the kind of dynamism that the Democratic Party needs, it’s going to be messy,” Sanders said. “Democracy is not always nice and quiet and gentle but that is where the Democratic party should go.”
The messiness that Sanders speaks to here was elaborated on more by the senator himself further.
“So what? Democracy is messy. Everyday my life is messy. But if you want everything to be quiet and orderly and allow, you know, just things to proceed without vigorous debate, that is not what democracy is about,” Sanders said.
This idea sounds nice. But his adage that his candidacy is going to change democracy is a tad overzealous.
He is not a bad candidate by any means, but it is becoming clearer every day that he simply does not know when to quit.
Clinton holds a ten percent lead in California, according to Real Clear Politics.
It is a key state should Sanders wish to stage the comeback he believes he can, but so far it looks as if that is another empty dream just as so many other states quickly became over time.
What gets Sanders and his supporters so angry is their unending insistence that some sort of foul play must have taken place and that it makes for the only possible reason that Sanders is not going to beat Hillary Clinton.
However, there is no real evidence of that actually happening on a scale large enough to make a difference. While it may seem that everyone and their brother is voting for Bernie, the results in many contests throughout the country show us that it is simply an untrue assessment of this race.
Now Clinton is by no means a perfect candidate and it would be unreasonable to expect all Bernie supporters to worship the ground she walks on once she wins the nomination, but the candidate himself citing this election, should it come down to Clinton and Trump, as a choice between the lesser of two evils is troublesome.
That statement along with so many others that have been made over the election will make it incredibly hard for any sort of endorsement of Clinton by Sanders in the future to seem genuine.
Clinton is simply not the lesser of two evils. Electing Donald Trump as the 45th President of the United States would make the country a laughingstock.
His brash and offensive campaign is not indicative of real American values and thus the notion that Clinton is somehow only slightly better than him remains utterly ridiculous.
Obviously Sanders wants to be president, but it becomes more evident every day that that will not become reality.
As he continues to attribute his losses to corruption within the system or other seemingly outlandish claims, it shows that he is unable to come to the realization that his “revolution” simply did not work.
Likewise, the violence that some of his supporters are inciting shows that they too are a part of the problem.
Of course, a majority of Sanders voters are sensible and will vote for Clinton come November even if it is done so begrudgingly.
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But the longer Sanders stays in and the more he claims that corruption has persisted because he has lost based in part on rules that have existed for decades, the more fuel it adds to the fire for the Bernie Bros and their Bernie or Bust mantra.
The Bernie Sanders Revolution, if it can even be called that, is not strong enough to make a lasting claim. While he has pushed the party and Clinton herself further left, it remains that that is all will come of his candidacy.
While whether or not the nominating process is fair is a worthwhile debate, there is just absolutely no substance behind the claim that the system is rigged to hurt Sanders in this election.
Successful politicians own up to losses and show an ability to compromise. That is what Clinton did when she lost to Barack Obama in 2008.
She swallowed her pride, accepted the loss, and even took a position in the cabinet of the very man who beat her to realizing her dream of becoming president.
Sanders is not showing an ability to do that here. His attacks on Clinton only become harsher over time, rather than a tad softer as it becomes clear he has no real path to the nomination.
While he cannot give up the values he has attested to so strongly throughout the campaign, he must do what every other runner up has done and show he has a strong enough ego to begin to work with his opponent rather than still trying to tear her down this late in the game.
If the polls as they stand today emulate any results that come out of California on June 7, it will become even clearer that Sanders needs to accept that he will not win the nomination.
But it remains important to his legacy that he does so sooner rather than later so his image as a sore loser can begin to be erased and so that his ideas can stand as his real legacy.
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