Online dating can be a minefield.
Fake accounts, bad intentioned users and conversations that can only be classified as cringeworthy.
But for those using apps like Tinder, finding a legitimate connection with someone can be hindered by a factor you don’t always think about; your location.
What happens if your search range on the app is 25 miles, but your “true love” is 26 miles away?
Sure, that may be overthinking it, but just like in real life, it’s a real possibility that you could be passing by your potential significant other simply because they’re located slightly outside your search distance.
There are 1.4 billion swipes and 26 million matches per day on Tinder.
One of those matches lead to Arianna Johnson meeting her husband Ben.
Arianna said she wasn’t expecting to meet her future husband through Tinder.
She had been using the app for a year on and off, going on a few dates, with three turning into what she considers actual relationships.
At the time, Arianna had her search distance maxed out to 100 miles.
“I did it because it allows for potential matches,” Arianna said.
Arianna recalls Ben being around 20 to 30 miles away from her when the two originally matched.
For Arianna, distance wasn’t going to be the biggest hurdle in meeting someone, but talking to a stranger might have been.
“When you go to a coffee shop…you don’t know if a person is single or taken,” Arianna said. “It’s ‘hard to talk to a total stranger…If I saw my husband in public without Tinder, I probably would have never gone up to talk to him.”
Unfortunately for the rest of us, cases like Arianna and Ben’s serve as an outlier to overall online dating statistics.
According to Pew Research, only 5% of Americans who are married or are in committed relationships say they met their significant other online.
The good news is, Pew Research also indicates that online dating has lost much of its negative stigma, with only 23% of American adults believing people who use online dating sites are desperate, and 59% now say that Online dating is a good way to meet people.
So now we can swipe away without the majority of people giving us the stare down.
Small victories right?
You should be worrying about the truly important things when using online dating.
Things like coming up with a witty pick-up line they’ve never heard of before, or making sure your pictures and bio page describe you as the perfect match, straying away from the hyperbolic nonsense that would lead your date to realize you are way lamer than they initially thought.
In all seriousness, the biggest obstacle preventing you from meeting that special someone might still be starting that initial conversation.
Stressing about missing your “true love” because you didn’t set your search distance high enough is superfluous.
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